...to find, understand, and grow into yourself, I believe you must live outside of your hometown at least once in your life. Beyond college. Pack your shit, go away for at least a month, on your own and find out who you really are. Allow the fear to take over, and do it anyway. I've done this 3 times in my life, all in countries I didn't speak the language. Test yourself. Don't worry......
you'll survive.